Celebrate/Honor/Love Conquers Hate/Success/Happiness
Even though some of these may seem like common or maybe even small problems to you, remember each person brings their own unique history and experience of the world into treatment. Over the years, I've seen many variations of some of these concerns.
I am so proud of the many successes my clients and I have created! Here are a few (in no particular order... and of course without identifying information).
I have helped people successfully:
Triumph over depression
Rediscover joy after the loss of a loved one
Maintain hope and survive the divorce (or uncoupling) process
Manage difficult office dynamics/ politics
Realize that perfectionism isn’t always a badge of honor
Understand the relationship between their thoughts, feelings and behaviors
Tolerate distressing situations
Confidently come out to their religious family as a gay man
Strike an appropriate work-life balance
Better understand themselves and what they bring to relationships
Build up their self-esteem, self-respect
Mend a broken heart
Parent challenging children
Expand their social support system
Organize themselves and reduce the impact that ADD/ADHD has on their life
Understand how childhood experiences affect romantic relationships, friendships in adult life
(Re)Connect emotionally to their partner
Cope with health concerns which impact sexual functioning and satisfaction
Explore how traditional assumptions impact one’s gender identity and sexual expression
Support their trans child in school and in the community
Cope with and support a partner with a significant mental or physical illness
Recover and re-engage in college/university after experiencing setbacks.
Maintain sobriety from alcohol or drugs
Identifying emotional vocabulary and managing emotional states
Live through and triumph over various forms of cancer
Navigate the anxiety provoking and sometimes heart-wrenching process of moving through the tenure process at several local universities and public school systems.
Develop a vision for and transition to retirement
Reclaim their sexual self
Developing assertiveness skills within relationships and at work.
Manage and eliminate burdensome OCD behaviors
Listen to, consider and respond appropriately to workplace feedback/criticism
Support and celebrate their gay son or daughter
Manage problematic behaviors
Awaken themselves and their partners in a sleepy relationship
Rid themselves of psychoses by helping them overcome ambivalence to taking psych meds
Stop burning bridges (in relationships) and assert themselves and their needs appropriately
Find their feeling selves
Maintain hope and find another job after being fired or laid off
Kick shame’s ass!
Manage unique stress associated with a poly relationship
Develop a satisfying sex life
Bring an end to delayed ejaculation (DE)
Overcome premature ejaculation (PE)
Explore various ways to manage erectile dysfunction (ED)
Manage the loss and cope with infertility
Create structure to their wide-open, unengaged lives.
Transition from work to disability and back to work again!
Getting unstuck when procrastination settles in
Manage stress associated with selling homes, businesses
Add to their families through the adoption process
Prepare and transition gender identities
Overcoming problematic internet use
Setting life/relationship goals and developing a plan to achieve them
Explore what gets in the way of feeling closer to people
Rekindling romance in long-term relationships Been married 20+ years and rarely have sex (with each other)....
Managing through the shame of mental illness....
Overcoming shame of internalized homophobia in gay men
Reconceptualizing what it means to be sexual in a relationship.
Developing a “sex menu”
Discern whether to open/close their monogamous/open/poly relationship